Mastering Speaking in Flow with Melinda Lee - Speak in Flow

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Speak In Flow Podcast! Today, we delve into the art of mastering speaking in flow with the brilliant Melinda Lee. Join us as we explore invaluable insights that will transform your communication journey.

Episode Highlights:

Moving Beyond the Struggle: Melinda Lee shares her profound wisdom on how to transition from the struggle stage to effortlessly speaking in flow. Uncover the mindset shifts and practical techniques that pave the way for seamless communication.

The Three Stages of Flow: Delve into the intricacies of flow with Melinda Lee as she guides us through the three transformative stages. From awareness to immersion and finally, integration, discover how each phase propels you towards eloquent expression.

Unlocking the Key Secret: Gain exclusive access to the key secret of mastering speaking in flow. Melinda Lee unveils the hidden gem that lies at the core of effortless communication, empowering you to captivate audiences with ease.

Navigating Novel Situations: In a world filled with novel situations, learn how to navigate them gracefully while maintaining your flow. Melinda Lee provides invaluable insights into adapting to the unknown, ensuring that you remain poised and articulate in every scenario.

Join us on this enlightening journey as Melinda Lee unveils the secrets to mastering speaking in flow. Prepare to elevate your communication skills to unprecedented heights!

For more captivating discussions and insights, don’t forget to subscribe to the Speak In Flow Podcast. Until next time, speak your truth and flow with grace!

About Melinda:

Melinda Lee is a Presentation Skills Expert, Speaking Coach and nationally renowned Motivational Speaker. She holds an M.A. in Organizational Psychology, is an Insights Practitioner, and is a Certified Professional in Talent Development as well as Certified in Conflict Resolution. For over a decade, Melinda has researched and studied the state of “flow” and used it as a proven technique to help corporate leaders and business owners amplify their voices, access flow, and present their mission in a more powerful way to achieve results.

She has been the TEDx Berkeley Speaker Coach and worked with hundreds of executives and teams from Facebook, Google, Microsoft, Caltrans, Bay Area Rapid Transit System, and more. Currently, she lives in San Francisco, California, and is breaking the ancestral lineage of silence.

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Transcript
Melinda Lee:

Welcome to a Speak In Flow Podcast episode, I am

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thrilled you're here, because this topic is near and dear to

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my heart, mastering and being successful at flow. Now what is

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flow anyways, flow is when your potential is skyrocketing,

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because you're so immersed in the present moment, there's no

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inner critic, there's no doubt they're gone. And you're just

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focused, you're here in the moment you're doing or whatever

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it is that you're doing, whether you're playing an instrument, or

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you are an athlete out on the court, throwing a basketball or

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whether you're a speaker, you are focused on the moment,

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there's nothing blocking you and you're immersed in the

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situation, your hand gestures, your body language, your words,

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naturally flow out, everything's in flow your movements. And

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that's when the opportunities come to you. That's when success

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comes to you. And, and abundance prosperity. And, and there's

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three phases, there's no way around it, to get into flow. And

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that's what I'm going to talk about today. And the three

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phases are awkward, release, and then flow. Awkward is that the

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struggle, it's, it's that moment, when we don't know what

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we're doing, we're so overwhelmed, everything is new,

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brand new, then you move into release releases, when you may

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know the steps, you may know the process of whatever it is that

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you're doing. But you're still thinking about it, you're still

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wondering whether you can do it or not. And then finally, flow,

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you're in the mastery, you're in success, you know, you got this

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and it's just natural to you. So we want to speed up your process

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to get from awkward to flow. By understanding these three

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phases. I'm gonna break down each, the first one is awkward.

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It's that struggle, it's that place that we don't like to be

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in and we want to get out of there as soon as possible. It's

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when you're starting something new. Everything is overwhelming.

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I remember when I first started in my job, and when I was 1716

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years old, I was working at a prime rib restaurant. And in

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this restaurant, there was a lot going on, right? You have to

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talk to the people at the table, then you have to take their

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order. And then you have to go back to the ticket and give it

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the salad ready and get the mashed potatoes. And it was so

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overwhelming. To me. It was a struggle. I didn't like to talk

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to the people at first. And then I didn't know where to go. I

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didn't know where to put the ticket. I didn't know where to

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get the salad. So it was just a lot. It was awkward. I was

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uncomfortable. Right? Have you ever felt that when you have

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just started something new, and you can start to feel

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embarrassed because if you don't know what you're doing, people

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are seeing you and then you start to feel some shame. Gosh,

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so it's the same way. Same thing can happen when we're speaking,

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when we are delivering a presentation. We are feeling

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overwhelmed, because we're not certain about our what's going

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to happen. We're not certain about our performance. Now we're

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not certain about what's going to if we're going to say all the

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right bullet points. And so there's just too much, right. So

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how can we speed through this awkward face to go into the next

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phase, which is relief. You're not in flow yet, but you're in

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release. So in release, you may know what the process is. So for

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example, in my restaurant example, after about a month, I

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started to then know where to how to greet the customers, you

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know, I was starting to get more comfortable greeting them. I

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knew where to put the ticket to put in the order. I knew how to

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get the salad. But I may in your mind, forget something. I may

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think okay, did I do this right? And I'm so I'm thinking about

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what I am doing. So it's still mechanical. It's not very

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natural. You might look at someone. Have you ever seen

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someone who is on the dance floor, they're they're doing the

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right moves, but they're mechanical, they're not really

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going to the beat so they know the moves, but it doesn't look

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natural. As a speaker, you may know what you're going to say.

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But it doesn't seem natural. You may have your talking points.

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And you may have even memorised your script. But it does not

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seem natural. You seem like a robot. And that is the release

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phase. So you're starting to get to the place where you're not

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completely overwhelmed and debilitated. But at the same

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time, you're starting to release some of the fear some of the

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doubt and starting to move into more mechanical I know the steps

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I know the process but still overthinking it still not

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completely certain whether I can do it or not. And the key to

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getting out of this phase from really If releasing doubt, and

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releasing being mechanical into flow is, is repetition, and

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consistency, keeping yourself doing what you're meant to do.

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And I'm going to share with you something, it is not when it

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comes to speaking not about repeating your script, you're

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gonna start to get to a point where you are in flow with your

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words. When I was at the restaurant, I started to just

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know where to go what to do with the customers, I just, I started

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to see where to put the ticket and see everything, I started to

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see how I interacted with the other waiters, and how I

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interacted with all the different tables that I was

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supporting, and how to multitask. Right. So I was

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seeing a bigger picture how to solve problems in the moment,

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even if things were ambiguous. And so that is what flow is

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because you're not focused. And you're releasing the mechanical,

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the process the steps, you are able to move into flow, and do

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some problem solving when things are chaotic, and things are

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uncertain. And so when you are in the release phase, and still

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going through the mechanics of your talk, right? Thinking about

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what am I going to say, it's going to be difficult for you to

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move into flow. And that's what most people are stuck in. That's

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where most people, they get into the habit of writing out their

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entire script and memorising it word for word. And then, and

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then they then they think that okay, I'm gonna memorise it word

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for word, then I'll finally get into flow. The truth of the

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matter is, if you have this as a habit, you're really not in

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flow, because I want you to start trusting your words. That

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is true flow. When you can move into the place of mastering,

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I've got this, I know, even if I don't have all my script, or if

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I don't know all the words, I know my bullet points and I can

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run and go with it, I can be the moment solve problems, step into

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the ambiguity, step into the uncomfortable in this and

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embrace, not knowing, and continually continuing to do

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that over and over again. And most of us, don't give us the

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opportunity and the Yeah, the experience of trusting

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ourselves. And so we are stuck in the mechanical the release,

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still releasing trying to release the script, but we will

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never let go of it. Or many of my clients are like, I'm so

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afraid if I don't have my script, I want to blank out I

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don't know what to say. And I created so many beautiful words

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in my PowerPoint, and they're not going to come out. So when

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you are holding on to in this phase, and not finally stepping

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into flow, which does mean to step into to embracing the

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unknown, having your bullets, embracing the uncertainty,

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trusting that your words will flow out. And of course, in the

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beginning, it will be uncomfortable. Of course, in the

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beginning, you may stumble on your words, but eventually

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you're going to get to the point where I've got this, I know my

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words, I know the content, I'm the expert, and stepping into

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that place of the unknown and still trusting that you can

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problem solve at the same time. That is when you've mastered

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flow. That is when you are in the moment focused on your

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audience. Focus on connecting with the audience, inspiring

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them moving your initiatives, because you can sense what they

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want what you need. And then you problem solve, and you

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collaborate and you communicate in a way that inspires people

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and is aspirational. So those are the three steps to moving

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into flow. Yes, of course, it's going to be awkward, awkward

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that you have to let go of the script, awkward that you have to

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just trust your bullet. And it's going to seem a little bit

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mechanical, you're going to have to release some of the doubt

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that you can't do this. But as you continue to repeat and get

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some feedback, you're going to start to get to the place of

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flow. And being able to speak on the cusp without your script.

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Trusting that you can embrace uncertainty problem solve,

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because you're so focused in the moment you're so focused on your

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clients, your audience, and the connection that you have with

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them.

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And I hope that you take this process and embrace it and use

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it for your next opportunity whether it's speaking or even

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just mastering a new skill, something that you've embraced

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whether it's learning how to ride a horse, whether it's

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learning how to cook, those are the three steps to moving from

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awkward Released and into flow and success until I see you

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again I'm your sister in flow love you take care